@suuperstar mentioned in a pulse about how people don't mention the good dates that they have been on, only the bad ones. Maybe the good ones aren't that entertaining as the bad ones. I mean the bad ones tend to stick out more because who has not experienced a bad date that you end up telling your friends and laughing back upon after? Maybe the good dates are the ones that you remember and keep to yourself. Some people might not want to rub it in peoples' faces, especially when friends are loathing being single or currently going through a hard time in a relationship. Some people might not want to think about the good date with someone because although it was a good date, the result of that date/relationship didn't end up like the fairytales and sometimes people don't want to be reminded of the past. I don't really know the answer why people don't like to share the good dates, but I will share mine.
Now I have had my share of dates (don't hate the player, hate the game! haha). Most of the dates that I've been on have been just hanging out, getting to know each other. I can't think of one that went so horribly wrong that I did not want to show my face in public ever again. If I ever do experience one or remember one that I have repressed so far in the back of my memory, I will write a post about it, but this is not the reason for this post today.
I am a fairly spontaneous person, so dates don't usually get much planning. It is usually there is a general idea of what we are going to do, but if anything else comes up, well then anything is possible. I haven't had any dates where I was nervous to go on. Sure, the fact of meeting someone new is nerve wrecking, but I was "as cool as a cucumber" as the phrase goes, at least in my mind. Their recollection of how I actually was is probably a lot different than what I remember. =P
Most dates usually consists of an activity, food, and for good measure, some dessert. One of the better dates if not the best one I have expereinced happened recently. I had met and revealed my feelings to my Xanga Crush and for some odd reason she was still sticking around. We chatted online and texted for the most part, so I got to know her and her interests. We only knew each other from the interweb so our first encounter with each other was awkward interesting, but things were going well. I liked her. She liked me and all that jazz. I usually like girls who I befriend first, so getting friend zoned was a recent occurance or when we did decide to go to the next step and "date," it wasn't so weird. This was the first time I liked someone and wasn't their friend before dating and it was different.
So although we met in person already, and hung out at Starbucks, and saw each other here and there, we never had an offcial date, so I decided to ask her out on an official "first" date. Once I asked and she agreed, I was stressing over because I had to actually plan something. I had to plan an itenerary and a schedule and made sure that we got to the places on time. For the first time I had this feeling in my stomach that wasn't just a calling to take a poop. Butterflies...I beleive they are called. Funny, I don't remember eating butterflies...
So I found her favorite colors and flowers. I went to the florist a week early to place an order for flowers because it is traditional to give the lady some flowers. I got tickets to watch a Wind Symphony Orchestra at my former university. I even chose a place to go eat at for good measure as well. She mentioned that she loved going to this music store when she was around the area, so I also planned to take her to that store as well.
When the day finally arrived, I had picked up the roses and got ready.
I waited for her to come to my house and gave her those flowers. I took her to the music store.
Spent an hour or so there and then we headed to get something to eat.
Let's just slather sauce over everything and charge them $15!
After the food, it was about time to get to the universtiy. The show was about to begin.
After an amazing evening of music, I gave her a tour of my campus under the stars. We called it a night and I took her back to her car and she was off on her way to her house, but not before a good night...
...a gentleman never kisses and tells. ^_^
November 18, 2011
Anyone care to share their own good date experience/s?
Last Saturday, the girlfriend and I partook in some fine dining and wine tasting in the Temecula Wine Country with a few of my friends. Well, we didn't get to eat lunch over there because I had work from 9-12pm which lasted until 1pm. We woke up early from her neck of the woods and got ready and left for my place. I then went to work and then after I was done, we headed down to Temecula. It was lunch time and we were hungry, so we went to the local King Taco and got our own kind of fine dining! Plus R got to see the sweet No PROSTITUTING sign that is posted so prominently in my city. That is how we do in the ghetto! haha
Finally got to Faulkner Winery that was listed in the itinerary (my friends are well-organized), but they had left (except when they are drinking) and were at the next winery. I drove and met them up at Monte de Oro Winery and hung out. They had bought bottles of wine and were drinking and being merry.
R doesn't drink much wine and hasn't been to many wine tastings, so she was unaware of what kind of wines she enjoys. I prefer the sweeter wines, but do enjoy a more dryer wine, white or red, but I am no expert. We decided to go wine tasting at the next winery since they appeared to be there for a while before R and I arrived. The weather was a little warm, but with a breeze. It was kind of windy, but it was really nice.
We eventually headed out to another winery, Keyways Winery and we did the wine tasting. R found a Muscato that she really enjoyed, so I went and bought her a bottle. We stopped by the last winery on the itinerary, but by then everyone seemed to be done drinking alcohol. We hung out there for a bit. It was getting dark and cold and people were hungry because like us, most people arrived later and missed lunch.
We ended up going to a shabu shabu place in Downtown Fullerton and ate. The food was okay. I don't like shabu shabu much, but everyone else wanted to go there. R didn't enjoy it much either. We went back to her place and slept the rest of the night away.
Things are going well in my life at the moment. I recently got bumped up to full-time at my job. I am technically holding two part-time jobs at two subdivisions within the company, but the point is that I am a full-time employee now. I also applied to the County which is going well. It is in the test process right now and if I do well in that, it is off to the interviews. I don't want to leave my current job, but the County does offer better pay and better opportunities as well. Let's not get ahead of myself and take it one step at a time.
My work is putting on our 11th Annual Got Skills Talent Show at Barnes Park in Monterey Park. It is on Friday, May 11 at 6pm, so stop by if you are around the area and see the talented youths perform! Also the choir I am in at Rio Hondo is teamed up with Chorale Bel Canto and will be performing Brahms "Ein Deutsches Requiem" on May 19th at First United Methodist Church in Pasadena at 4pm.
Someone (who shall remain nameless) tried to give me a dead leg, but was unaware of what a dead leg was. After explaining it to her, she tried to give me some more dead legs, but playfully. So I decide to defend myself by retaliating and trying to give her a dead leg with my knee playfully. She decides to start punching my thigh as I bring my knee up.
I decide to be the bigger person and ask her for a Truce. I went in for a hug and asked for a truce. She said, "No." So I did what any logical human being would do...while we were engaged in the hug, after she denied my truce, I raised my knee and kneed her on the thigh and then pushed her away and ran. She said she would get back.
I felt like Barney Stinson waiting for a slap from Marshall Erikson after losing the slap bet from How I Met Your Mother. I wanted her to just hit me and get it over with, but she had other plans.
As she was sweeping the kitchen, I was carrying her little nephew and brought him in the kitchen. She was saying hi to him and at that moment, she decides to punch my thigh pretty hard. I felt my leg go dead and I knew I was going down. I saw things in slow motion. Before falling to the cold hard tile floor, I passed the baby to her and down I went. Haha.
That was not cool, but it was funny. You cannot say that we don't have fun together. My leg still hurts, but we called a truce (finally). I guess I had it coming to me. Fun times. =D
@pinktiger335 (the tagging of pinktiger335 does not imply that she was the one involved in this incident. All characters depicted are fictional and this incident is loosely based on true events, except they are true events. I had to put that disclaimer in because she would get mad if I didn't. She beats me...haha. I'm just kidding. (really I'm not...help! J/k) ^_^
I haven't been on here lately. It isn't that I don't care about Xanga anymore, it is just that I have just been busy with work and everything going on in my life. I still read up here and there, but my computer is not working, so I don't really have a means to be on as much.
Yesterday was my birthday. It was the best birthday I ever had. I bought cases of drinks at Costco...and at one point I knocked out flat on my face! Before I go into details about my crazy day, let's recap some of my previous birthdays.
20th Birthday - My birthday was not only a day celebration, It was a weekend celebration! So after dinner one night, renting two conjoined hotel rooms at the Doubletree Hotel and throwing a big party the next night, it ended up at a club the following night.
21st Birthday - Since I had a big party last year at a hotel room, I decided to one up it and this year I threw a Beach BBQ/Bonfire Birthday party during the day and when it got dark and cold, we moved it to Hyatt Resort across the street! Two bedrooms conjoined suite!
22nd Birthday - My birthday usually lands around Spring Break. This spring break a few friends and I decided to go to Arizona and Vegas. When I got back my friends decided to get together and have a dinner for me at Tokyo Wako. The next night another friend threw me a surprise birthday party at her house and invited a lot of my friends. It was quite a surprise. My actual birthday landed on Sunday and it was Daylight Savings, so I had a 23 hour birthday.
23rd Birthday - Birthday celebrations began turning into a week long birthday event! Though this event wasn't quite as big as the other ones. Just had some dinners and hung out. Got very drunk at Dave & Busters. That is all I remember
24th Birthday - Birthday dinner one night, a friend decided to let me use her house in Riverside for a birthday gathering with close friends and then the next night got a Suite at Morongo Casino and had a party in the room.
25th Birthday - The Quarter of a Century. I had a dinner at BJ's with a lot of friends, but sometime during the planning of my 23rd birthday, a few friends and I decided to do something spectacular for our 25th Birthdays and since there were a lot of us born in April it was decided that we would combine our birthday into one giant beach house weekend for all of our birthdays. We rented out a beach house in Sunset Beach for the weekend. It was a really nice 3 story house with a balcony and oh the never ending amount of alcohol...*shudders*
26th Birthday - My friends decided to gather and get together and celebrate my birthday at Yardhouse and then we went Karaoke in J-Town.
27th Birthday - I didn't feel like doing anything, but a few friends decided to throw me a surprise get together/BBQ at a park. They tricked me by saying we were having a dog day at the park. I was surprised to find out I was the only one who brought a dog and found out what they did.
Which all leads me to my 28th Birthday. Let me tell you, it was a blur! After having such birthdays like those that I have had, how can they be topped? Well, it started off by sending off my g/f's son off to school. We then went to the store to get last minute stuff for French toast. Needed to get some milk and other stuff, so we left to Costco and I bought 6 cases of water along with other stuff! Got back and then made food, but I couldn't eat because I was getting a massage. I fell asleep face down getting a massage and it felt pretty good considering it was my first massage and I have an issue of letting other people touch me. Left to go to my choir class and practiced the Brahms "Requiem" and then went home to sleep because I had a mandatory last minute training in L.A. the next morning that I was unaware of until that night.
My birthday wish, I hope that all of you out there in Xanga are doing well, taking care, and avoiding drama! Haha.
Doesn't sound like much, but it was the best birthday in my eyes because I got to spend it with you, @pinktiger335. I don't need parties or alcohol to have a great birthday. It was everything that I could ask for spending it with you and your son. If I could have changed one thing to make it perfect...no school, so I could have stayed with you a little longer.Other than that, no complaints. =D
I’d say I am a fortunate guy.I really have nothing to complain about…well I do, but I try not to let it get the best of me.I keep to myself, for the most part, but there is something that I cannot keep to myself anymore.
I have liked many girls.Hormones, right?I haven’t expressed my feelings for most because of fear of getting rejected.A lot of it had to do with me.I was never that self confident in myself.I kept playing the “I am a nice guy, and nice guys finish last card.”But that wasn’t the case.I didn’t do anything, so I wasn’t even in the race.I couldn’t even finish last.Call it getting older, gaining more experience, but I realized I needed to be more confident in myself.
I know I am not the best looking guy out there, but she makes me feel like I am.I know I am the luckiest guy out there.No contest.
I started talking to someone who I developed feelings for.Those feelings turned into a crush.A Xanga Crush.I decided to do something about it and that crush eventually became my girlfriend.I realized I had nothing to lose.So I took the initiative and now I can tell the world (or at least the Xanga World) that my former Xanga Crush and now girlfriend is @pinktiger335!
Day after Christmas spent at the park.
I wanted to reveal my crush in a very lame way.Watching too many Romantic Comedies, I presume.My plan was to tell her on Halloween with this cheesy line, “On a day where everyone is hiding who they are, I am here revealing to you that you are my Xanga Crush!”It didn’t happen that way, but I did win a necklace and earring set from @LKJSlain.She had a jewelrygiveaway, and I won by saying that I would give it to my Xanga Crush if I did.
My Xanga Crush wanted a Sugar Daddy(the candy…I think, haha =P), so I went on a Mission to find it for her.Eventually, I don’t know what made her decide to meet up with me, but she did and we met up.I gave her a hug and then gave her, her Sugar Daddys.We hung out and eventually at the end of the night before parting ways, I gave her the necklace and earring set.I revealed to her that she was my Xanga Crush…she already knew. Smooth.
Right after I told her she was my XC.
We’ve hung out more, any chance we could get to see each other, we would schedule it in.If someone likes you, youmake time for each other, and we always found a way to meet halfway.I met her family at one of her cousin’s Quinceanera.And a few days later, I asked her to be my girlfriend.Was the way I did it perfect?No.I probably could have done it in a cuter, better fashion, but she was there and that was perfect enough.
At the Quinceanera
I spent Christmas with her and even rung in the New Year with her.As many Xangans talked about the EPIC New Year’s Eve Xanga Party in DC, I spent it playing Monopoly with her family and had the best time ever.Never had I known a simple Xanga Crush would turn into so much more.Happy one month Reyna, with many more to come! Never have I ever been happier!
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